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Divorce Mediation and Counseling – The Secret to a Better Divorce

Is there a way for something as negative and sad as divorce to be made easier and less stressful for a couple and their children?

Divorce Mediation and Counseling offers a refreshing alternative to the usual protracted and expensive litigated divorce. It provides the opportunity for the divorcing couple to make their own decisions regarding parenting and the division of property, making it easier to work as co-parents following the divorce.

A mediator remains neutral between the wife and husband and does not give advice or act as lawyer to either of the two parties.

Instead, the mediator will point out to both, during open session, issues they should consider. This free and open exchange of information gives both spouses the chance to negotiate with one another with confidence. With everyone working from a similar base of information, it can take less time to come up with agreements that are acceptable to both parties.

Mediation is voluntary and we ask that you commit to it in good faith, open to exchanging information, and willing to compromise when it will be in everyone’s best interest. You and your spouse can always withdraw from the process anytime.

Mediation and Its Benefits

  • Efficiency and Speed

Mediation has been designed to be a speedy and efficient process of divorce in contrast with the unpredictable and slow process followed in the traditional court system that usually takes months or years. One value of mediation is to meet the unique needs of a family’s circumstance rather than the court assigning a one-size-fits-all solution to division of property and parenting.

  • Prevents Escalation of Conflict and Defuses Hostility

In a peaceful and private atmosphere wherein the two parties are made to feel comfortable and safe in the presence of each other, mediation’s goal is to mitigate despair, hurt, fear and anger. Together you develop a plan for your family’s future.

  • Confidential and Private

Mediation can help avoid exposure of both financial and personal information to the public. Every piece of information that will be revealed is going to be kept confidential even when the cause ultimately reaches the court.

  • Improves Communication

In general, the breakdowns in communication are the primary cause of trouble in the dissolution of a marriage. Mediation can facilitate and promote communication and cooperation between the two parties.

  • Self-determination

The process of mediation can empower the parties for mutually tailoring their agreement that will be more sensitive, creative and effective to their needs, making it easier to respect and accept.

  • Reduced Cost

Mediation can dramatically reduce the cost that you will have to spend, a small fraction of litigation’s overall cost.

  • Win-win

Unlike the process of litigation in which the objective is for only one party to win, the mediated settlement is a mutually acceptable solution in which both parties win.

Counseling for a Better Divorce

Counseling can shift the emphasis from problems and pessimism to solutions and optimism, from what happened in the past to what you want for the future. Because DMC incorporates divorce counseling in its mediation.

Divorce counseling prepares both people to move successfully into their new futures; one secret for successful co-parenting is how well each parent is functioning.

 

Co-parenting after Your Divorce

While the role of a spouse can end after the divorce, the role of a parent will still continue. You can find it more helpful if you stop first and think about these following questions:

  • How will you be involved in the life of your child or children?
  • How will you model respectful, adult behavior if you and your former spouse cannot get along?
  • How will you get along with your former spouse well enough to give your children the benefits each of you brings to parenting?

Co-parenting means both parents are going to play an active role in the daily lives of their children. Both parents are responsible for the care and education of their children. Children are able to grow and thrive knowing their parents are a team working on their behalf.

Parenthood creates “enduring connections, ties that outlast the severance of the adult relationship,” Professor Patrick Parkinson

 

Co-parenting and Its Benefits

  • Children can develop a sense of stability knowing both parents are involved in their lives.
  • Children can continue their relationships with both of their parents.
  • There is a lesser chance that children will feel torn between parents.
  • The children are less likely to feel they are abandoned.
  • Children will be less likely to feel the need to parent their parents; to meet the emotional and social needs of their parents.

 

Is there a way for something as negative and sad as divorce to be made easier and less stressful for a couple and their children?

Yes.

Divorce Mediation and Counseling.

210-822-1708

 

July 4th, 2015|0 Comments